Halfway through the month and New Years Resolutions
are almost forgotten.
The days have certainly rolled by so fast, and it’s difficult to believe that we are halfway through the month. Experts are now telling us it is common to ‘Give Up’ on those New Years Resolutions. In addition, Social Media and Traditional Media are awash with experts telling us how to stay focused. There will be a number of hints and tips on how to stay focused and what to do if lose focus.
An alternate view on New Years Resolutions
When the New Year arrives, everyone becomes convinced that the year ahead will change. There are
better opportunities around the next corner and life is better looking forward. Looking back can have some advantages, however, if you spend your time looking back you will never make any changes to your life. On the other hand, if you constantly look forward you are missing today. It can be a fine line getting your experiences, goals and future in the correct order. A mixture of all three views will make a fulfilled and satisfying life.
Our past is what has made us the people we are today. I agree that some people’s pasts have been horrendous and you certainly wouldn’t want to relive them. Some people’s past have been like a fairy tale, all loving, supportive and idealistic. Other people’s pasts would be deemed normal, average and the same as everyone’s. Nevertheless, the past is the process that has made us the people we are today. Good, Bad, Indifferent.
The present is what we are doing now to ourselves, what we do today and on a daily basis. How we treat ourselves and those around us. It is our everyday lives, getting up in the morning, going to work or taking the kids to school. The present is where we live.
The Future is where we would like to be in a few days, weeks, months or years. Our future is where we plan the good things we want to do or be. We allow that small child in us to dream of our life as we want it to be.
So why do New Years Resolutions Fail
A new years resolution could fail because the goal was too big or might be worded correctly. If you have a goal, for example, to lose weight. How much? If your goal was to lose four stone by the summer, then this could be too big a goal. The summer is only seven months away. Losing an average of 1 pounds a week, that only 30 lbs. Four stone in weight is 56 lbs. If you miss your goal by one or two pounds in February, you are already setting yourself up to fail. Set yourself realistic goals that you know you can reach. If you want to lose weight, be realistic. Have you tried before to lose weight? What happened. Did you succeed, if not what happened to prevent your success?
If you find that you are living in the past, then anything you do in the future could be at risk. The past is the past and needs to stay there. Learn from it, use the lessons and keep it in its place.
If your goal is failing because you are are not doing anything today to achieve the desired outcome, how can the goal be a success? You need to work on your goal on a daily basis. Write it down, read it daily and make one small change or one small thing that can bring you closer to achieving that goal. Look to the future and visualise what the result of that goal will be.
If your goal is to be able to go out of the house and complete the week family shop, then setting your goal to go to Tescos or any other supermarket could be too big. Set a smaller goal, for example walking to the end of your drive or road, going to your local corner shop. Break your larger goal into smaller manageable goals. Don’t set yourself up to fail. Stack the cards in your favour, write your goal in a way that you just can’t fail. For example, this month I am going to open my front door and step outside. Next month I will walk to the end of the drive or road. Whatever goal you have decided to set, small steps make bigger changes!
In conclusion, If you don’t believe me, that small steps make bigger changes, just think of a mosquito flying around your bedroom at night. Without doubt, the mosquito is smaller than you, but when it buzzes in your ear you know, he is around.
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