Belief in Oneself is one of the hardest tasks we have to set for ourselves. We have to trust that we are good, true and honest and that we are valuable in our own right. Likewise, we have to believe that others like and trust us. As well as knowing that we are the ones that will make a difference in our own lives.


The Year of Me - Belief in Oneself
Belief in Oneself

The past is the past, and we survived. What we did yesterday has made us the person we are today and will help shape the person we will be. However, is the person you were yesterday good enough for you? Is the person you were last year the person you want to be tomorrow and the year ahead?


Belief in Oneself starts with one very simple step. Telling yourself you are in control.  In control of what you think, what you do and what you want to do. It may be true to say that in your current situation you may have limited control or no options. You may be in a position where decisions are made on your behalf and you are out of control. Now is the time to stop and look at your situation. Look at what you are doing and decide what you want to do.


  1. Create a list of everything you want to do
  2. List of everything you want to stop doing
  3. Make a list of everything you have control over right now
  4. List everything you want to have control over

Evaluate all four lists and select one item from each list that you want to concentrate on. Work towards that goal.

For Example – Wanting to be in control at work and ensuring you can go home to your family in a good mood and not exhausted.

  1. I want to be confident at work
  2. Learn to say NO at work. Stop saying Yes to everything at work which makes me stay late and have to work for free and late going home
  3. I have control over journey to and from work
  4. I want to have control over my working day

Now create a strategy that means you have the ability to say No to tasks that will result in you leaving late. This can be as simple as telling your boss about the amount of work you have.  Let them decided which task is more important for completion and then work on that task first. Your boss may not know or understand what work you have on in that day.  Additionally, you could arrange a weekly meeting with them to discuss your week ahead. This will give you an ideal opportunity to tell them you have to leave on time for private reasons.

In conclusion, Belief in Oneself is also ‘The Year of Me’

New Years Resolutions may have been to big
Reword your New Years Resolution

Halfway through the month and New Years Resolutions
are almost forgotten.

The days have certainly rolled by so fast, and it’s difficult to believe that we are halfway through the month. Experts are now telling us it is common to ‘Give Up’ on those New Years Resolutions. In addition, Social Media and Traditional Media are awash with experts telling us how to stay focused. There will be a number of hints and tips on how to stay focused and what to do if lose focus.


An alternate view on New Years Resolutions

When the New Year arrives, everyone becomes convinced that the year ahead will change. There are

New Years Resolutions don't have to be big
New Year Goals don’t have to be big

better opportunities around the next corner and life is better looking forward. Looking back can have some advantages, however, if you spend your time looking back you will never make any changes to your life. On the other hand, if you constantly look forward you are missing today. It can be a fine line getting your experiences, goals and future in the correct order. A mixture of all three views will make a fulfilled and satisfying life.


A bully at work or school is stressful
A bully at work or school is stressful

A bully is one of those human traits that can come from nowhere and just knock you for six. You may be the bully or may be bullied and not even know. You may not know your bully personally, especially with the advent of social media or it could be from an acquaintance. The bully may know you personally.  He or she could be your boss or a work colleague, a member of your family or even a friend.


The strange thing about being bullied is that you may not even know that you are bullied, until you are in the middle of the situation, or you have the time and space to reflect on what has occurred.



‘All I want is a good nights sleep’ my housemate use to yell at me as she got crosser and crosser because she couldn’t sleep, often making me up to tell me! Insomnia isn’t pleasant and can result in a person focusing their entire day on how you are going to sleep that night, if at all.

A good nights sleep
Going to bed can become a nightmare when all you want is a good nights sleep.

My friend worried so much about sleeping that when it came to bed time, she would get herself so worked up that she couldn’t sleep. She would walk upstairs telling herself ‘A good nights sleep, that’s all I want’ it almost became her mantra! As a result of not sleeping she would make mistakes at work, become very short tempered with her family and friends and even crashed her car because she was so tired.


What she didn’t know then, for a good nights sleep, she needed to follow a some of the sleeping rules.  This would have helped her sleep and stopped her fearing her bed at night.

The Rules for a Good Nights Sleep

  • Sleep as much as you need to feel rested. Then get up, even if it is in the middle of the night.
  • Avoid tea or coffee after lunchtime
  • Avoid alcohol especially just before its time to go to bed
  • Give up smoking, as nicotine is a stimulant
  • Do not go to bed hungry
  • Ensure the bedroom is dark and quiet
  • No iPads, smart phones or any other similar device before going to bed.
  • No Social Media before bed.

For more tips on a good nights sleep click here

Hypnotherapy would also help.  Hypnotherapy trains the mind to rest and focuses on how to stop

Beating Insomnia to get a good nights sleep
A good night’s sleep can prevent anxiety and stress.

The internal chatter that often happens when the lights are out and you have nothing to do except think about the day just completed and the day ahead.

Hypnotherapy and weight loss
I lost weight with Sea Glass Hypnotherapy and Julie C Farmer

Hypnotherapy and weight loss has been one of those topic that everyone loves to talk about and few have tried.  There are some people who try a hypnotherapy gastric band and those who just use hypnotherapy to take control of life and what they want from life.  Sea Glass Hypnotherapy are solution focused and will look at the here and now and how you can move your life forward with whatever you have a worry or concern about.

Hypnotherapy and Weight Loss

I have been seeing Jeannie now for 6 weeks and I wanted to share her success with you.  Jeannie wanted to lose some weight.  She had tried all the normal diets you can think of and was about to give up and just accept that she is the weight she is and that will be the end of it.  However, Jeannie decided to try one last option, hypnotherapy and weight loss.  In fact some of the first words she said to me was:


‘I don’t think this will work, but I have tried everything else so why not give it a go’.  Great feed back for me and what a way to start a session???


Hypnotherapy and Weight Loss – a clients view

Listen to Jeannie and hear what she has to say in her own words.