Belief in Oneself is one of the hardest tasks we have to set for ourselves. We have to trust that we are good, true and honest and that we are valuable in our own right. Likewise, we have to believe that others like and trust us. As well as knowing that we are the ones that will make a difference in our own lives.
The past is the past, and we survived. What we did yesterday has made us the person we are today and will help shape the person we will be. However, is the person you were yesterday good enough for you? Is the person you were last year the person you want to be tomorrow and the year ahead?
Belief in Oneself starts with one very simple step. Telling yourself you are in control. In control of what you think, what you do and what you want to do. It may be true to say that in your current situation you may have limited control or no options. You may be in a position where decisions are made on your behalf and you are out of control. Now is the time to stop and look at your situation. Look at what you are doing and decide what you want to do.
- Create a list of everything you want to do
- List of everything you want to stop doing
- Make a list of everything you have control over right now
- List everything you want to have control over
Evaluate all four lists and select one item from each list that you want to concentrate on. Work towards that goal.
For Example – Wanting to be in control at work and ensuring you can go home to your family in a good mood and not exhausted.
- I want to be confident at work
- Learn to say NO at work. Stop saying Yes to everything at work which makes me stay late and have to work for free and late going home
- I have control over journey to and from work
- I want to have control over my working day
Now create a strategy that means you have the ability to say No to tasks that will result in you leaving late. This can be as simple as telling your boss about the amount of work you have. Let them decided which task is more important for completion and then work on that task first. Your boss may not know or understand what work you have on in that day. Additionally, you could arrange a weekly meeting with them to discuss your week ahead. This will give you an ideal opportunity to tell them you have to leave on time for private reasons.